"A friend is someone who knows all about you and still likes you"
I have the dearest friend in my husband. I am secure in that he will always try [and sometimes it can be difficult] to understand me. He always has an interest in what I am doing and a sympathetic ear for me when I get frustrated & stressed. He is my champion who loves me in spite of all my flaws. Who is patient with my excessive desire to be neat and organized. I trust him with all that I am.
Then there is my best female friend of 45 years who lives in Brooklyn, NY [and loves it]. She says the only thing missing is...me! She knows how I think and she does understand me. We have never had an argument is 45 years and let me tell you she has told me off a few times [and she was always right]. We raised our children living in apartments next to each other. We settled the woes of the world over a cup a tea late at night when the kids & hubbies were sleeping. She at her kitchen window and me at mine. I trust that I could tell her anything and she would not be judgemental and would always tell me the truth.
I'm not sure how people regard "friendship" today? It appears to me, and I may be all wrong about this, that friendship serves a purpose today.
What I mean is ..."how will this help me"..."what's in it for me"...."what do I get out of it".....- Please anyone who reads this let me know if I am wrong? I hope I am!
Friendship, like any relationship needs to be nurtured. Trust doesn't come in an instant but grows over a lifetime. That's not to say that some friends "move on" maybe we should call them acquaintances? How does anyone start or maintain a new and growing friendship in this noisy world. We don't talk to each other...we text message....we don't write letters we email....
Like I've said in previous posts technology is great, but are we giving up the very things that attract friends, our human qualities!
- You can't hear a laugh in a text message or see tears in an email.
I do think it is possible to express emotion through email, blogs, or any other form of written word. Poetry and literature have been doing it for some time already!
ReplyDeleteIt might be more difficult for some people, but, what's great about writing, is that there's no deadline to get that thought out - to get it worded in a way that expresses exactly what needs to be expressed.
I have 2 friends I've made online, one, a knitter who's gone through Cancer, and the other a well-known romance novelist, who's also gone through Cancer. I've met one lady and hope to one day meet the other.
We are supportive of each other, just as friends who get to meet regularly are.
From what I've seen, the net has allowed more people to be connected to others, who might not otherwise get to make human connections.
It's widened the world for many, and has the potential to make us less parochial and more open-minded.
I can't speak for men, as I think men approach the net differently than women do. Women have always sought to make connections. There are just fabulous new ways to do it now.
love, moi xo